
I'm Mel Zajkowski, a registered counsellor and couples therapist based in Tauranga. I offer individual counselling, relationship counselling and EMDR therapy for people experiencing emotional difficulties, trauma, relationship challenges and other personal concerns.
Perhaps you're struggling with anxiety or depression, feeling overwhelmed by stress, or finding it difficult to move forward after a painful experience. Or you and your partner may be experiencing communication difficulties, recurring conflicts or a loss of connection.
I understand that reaching out for counselling can feel like a big step. My aim is to provide a warm, safe and non-judgemental environment where you feel comfortable sharing your experiences and exploring what matters to you.
I draw on a range of therapeutic approaches, including EMDR, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, tailoring our work to your individual needs.
Below you can explore the different areas I can help you with.
Specialisations
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Trauma & PTSD
Are you struggling with the effects of a traumatic experience? My approach is gentle, compassionate and guided by your needs.
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EMDR Therapy
I offer EMDR therapy to help people process traumatic or distressing experiences that continue to affect their emotional wellbeing.
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Couples Counselling
I offer relationship and marriage counselling to help couples explore their difficulties, understand the patterns affecting their relationship and find ways to move forward.
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Addiction Recovery Support
Are you struggling with alcohol, drugs, gambling or another behaviour that feels increasingly difficult to control?
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Anxiety, Panic & Fears
Are you struggling with anxiety, constant worry or feelings of fear that are difficult to control?
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Depression & Low Mood
Are you feeling low, emotionally exhausted or struggling to find enjoyment in things that used to matter to you?
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Grief, Loss & Bereavement
Are you struggling with grief after losing someone or something important in your life?
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Stress & Burnout
Are you feeling constantly overwhelmed, exhausted or struggling to keep up with the demands of everyday life?
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Other Counselling Issues
Alongside my work with trauma, anxiety, depression, addiction and relationship difficulties, I also support people with a wide range of personal and emotional concerns.
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Online Counselling
I offer online counselling for individuals and couples throughout New Zealand.
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A supportive space to talk and find your way forward
Life can bring experiences that leave us feeling overwhelmed, uncertain or disconnected from ourselves and others.
Sometimes we're dealing with something that has happened recently. At other times, difficult experiences from the past continue to influence how we feel, think and respond to everyday situations.
I believe that counselling can provide an opportunity to understand these experiences, recognise patterns that may be holding you back and explore different ways of moving forward.
My approach is compassionate, collaborative and guided by your needs. I don't believe in a one-size-fits-all approach, and I recognise that everyone brings their own experiences, strengths and challenges to counselling.
Together, we can explore what's happening in your life, build on the resources you already have and develop practical strategies for positive change.
Trauma counselling and EMDR therapy
I have a particular interest in supporting people affected by trauma and distressing past experiences.
Trauma can affect your confidence, relationships, emotional wellbeing and sense of safety, sometimes long after an experience has passed.
I hold specialist postgraduate qualifications in working therapeutically with trauma and have undertaken training in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing).
My approach to trauma counselling is gentle and paced by you, with safety and trust always coming first.
Where appropriate, EMDR therapy can help you process distressing memories and reduce the impact they continue to have on your present life.
Couples counselling and relationship support
Relationships can be a source of comfort and connection, but they can also become difficult when communication breaks down, trust is damaged or partners begin to feel distant from each other.
As a couples therapist, I work with partners who are experiencing recurring conflicts, intimacy difficulties, infidelity or other relationship challenges.
I have undertaken training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples, which helps partners explore the emotional patterns underlying their difficulties.
My aim is to create a neutral and supportive environment where both partners can feel heard, develop greater understanding and consider how they would like to move forward.
My approach to counselling
I draw on several therapeutic approaches, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy and Strengths-Based Therapy.
Depending on your circumstances, our work may involve developing practical ways of managing difficult thoughts and emotions, exploring the influence of past experiences or recognising strengths and resources that can support you through change.
I believe that understanding yourself with compassion, rather than judgement, is an important part of personal growth and emotional wellbeing.
Whether you're seeking support with anxiety, depression, addiction recovery, grief, stress or relationship difficulties, we can work together to find an approach that feels right for you.
Counselling in Tauranga and online
I offer face-to-face individual and couples counselling in Tauranga, as well as online counselling for individuals and couples throughout New Zealand.
Whether you're looking for support with a particular concern or simply feel that something in your life needs attention, you're welcome to get in touch.
Would you like to know more or make an appointment? Please feel free to contact me.
Mel
Counsellor & Couples Therapist
Registered with NZAC
Client Experience – Counselling with Mel
Mel has been there for me through the toughest, lowest place I’ve ever been in my life. I honestly don’t know how to put into words what her support has meant to me. When life feels unbearable and you’re struggling more than people realise, having someone who genuinely listens, understands and cares makes such a difference.
Mel has given me a safe space to be honest about how I’m feeling, without having to pretend I’m okay when I’m not. She listens without judgement and makes me feel heard, even when I struggle to find the words to explain what’s going on inside me.
I’m so grateful to have found Mel. She has shown me so much kindness and understanding during a time in my life when I’ve needed it more than ever. Sometimes people come into your life and make a difference that they may never fully realise, and Mel is one of those people.
If you’re looking for a counsellor who genuinely cares about you as a person and makes you feel comfortable enough to open up, I couldn’t recommend Mel enough. She truly is amazing at what she does, and I’m so thankful for her. ❤️